Step #4: Use Body Language Effectively
Your nonverbal cues express what you’re thinking and can affect other people’s perceptions of you. It’s one of those things that people constantly ignore because they’re so concerned with what to say in a conversation. But people also “read” your body language.
Here are a few body language tips:
- Stand strategically – When you’re speaking or approaching someone, stand at a 45 degree angle from them so you’re a bit off to the side. Standing square in front of the other person could be intimidating. If you’re angled to the crowd, it will also feel more inviting to others.
- “Open” body language – Don’t cross your legs or arms.
- Eye contact – Maintain eye contact while talking to the other person. If you find maintaining eye contact difficult, try looking at your conversation partner’s eyebrow or focus on one of their eyes
Finally, here are body language no-no’s:
- Do not play with your phone – Isn’t it super annoying when someone you’re speaking with is obsessed with their phone while speaking with you? Don’t be that guy.
- Do not look around – Although you may be at a fun bar or event, keep your eyes and attention fixed to the person you’re speaking with. Giving your undivided attention to your conversation partner will make them feel like you’re engaged with what they’re saying and not just being polite. Remember, making someone feel like they’re the only person in the room that matters is the secret to being charismatic.
- Do not stand too close – Don’t be a close-talker. Make sure that there’s enough space between you and your conversation partner. As a rule of thumb, if you’re standing at a 45 degree angle from the person and put your hand on your hip your elbow shouldn’t make contact with their body